Marriage Between Partners or Their Personalities

Irum Abbasi
1 min readFeb 10, 2022

Two partners tying a marital knot cannot possibly

fathom the complexity of the relationship that lies

ahead. Once married, the success or failure of marriage is

determined by a myriad of factors. Each partner is a unique

agglomeration of stable personal dispositions that influence

marital relationships. During courtship, partners typically

idealize their relationship and maintain a positive illusion

about their significant other, and behaviors and traits that

may later threaten the developing relationship are mostly

ignored. In the early marriage years, however, the process

of marital disillusionment begins and the personal

dispositions that were dismissed earlier become increasingly

conspicuous and hard to ignore. Eventually, partners

come to grips with reality and experience a decline in love.

Acknowledging that personal dispositions are ingrained in

the genetics and are reinforced by the early experiences and

attachment bonds, the role of personal dispositions on marital outcomes need more research attention.

For Further Reading

https://mindfulrelation.com/

Abbasi, I. S. (2017). Personality and marital relationships: Developing a satisfactory relationship with an imperfect partner. Contemporary Family Therapy: An International Journal, 39(3), 184–194.

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Irum Abbasi

Irum has a PhD. in Psychology. She examines the influence of social media behaviors on romantic relationships.